10 Ways To Destroy A Relationship

It's already a long time since I've posted anything on this blog. Well, I could say that I'm quite busy with assignments, lecture classes that popped up out of nowhere and of course tiresome moments of having to see things that are unpleasant(??). I really can say that this is a thing or so in my life as a teacher trainee in a small teacher training college in Sungai Petani.... Hey, what am I talking now? I think it's time to say something that can really give encouragement to others, not discouraging people in the faith that we have have in Christ. Now it's the time to say something that would be a good reminder to everyone.

Okay, so how can one destroy a relationship? Here's how it goes:

Number One: Manipulate people. You tend to threaten or blackmail people in order to gain advantage on them, thus having them to do your dirty works( mind the language)

Number Two: Tell lies to others. You often tell lies about yourself or others so that you could gain their trust. But actually this is not helping at all but instead it's pulling your reputation down as without trust in one another the relationship would eventually die out.

Number Three: Gossiping about people. This is the worst offense of all that could REALLY DISSOLVE A RELATIONSHIP whether it's friendship or a love relationship. (I've experienced it once and it's definitely a very painful thing to accept) (Read Proverbs 16:28,17:9)

Number Four: Ignoring people at the crucial time of their lives. This is one of the things that one would tend to do especially when the friend that is in despair needs your support and help very much. When you fail to help, that would mean the end of the relationship no matter how long it has been going. (Read Proverbs 17:7)

Number Five: Rejecting people. You tend to develop prejudice towards people because of their differences in background, race or culture. Being a racist yourself is already one of the ways to destroy any relationship that might slightly exist without one knowing.

Number Six: Overstaying your welcome at people's homes. I'm not trying to be rude here but it's the fact that when we go to our friend's house frequently you might end the relationship because you're not giving your friend any respect in privacy. It is considered rude for going to a friend's house too often. (Read Proverbs 25:17)

Number Seven: Always talk about yourself. When you're talking to your friend and you kept on emphasizing your own thoughts or feelings too much this would show to others how selfish you are and you're being inconsiderate towards other people's feeling. (Read Proverbs 10:19. James 1:19)

Number Eight: Promise to do something for people but not doing it. When you fail to do something urgent e.g. helping someone to take care of their house or precious belongings or do some work, this is a sign for the friend that you're not the trustworthy type and you've proven yourself being a person who breaks promises.

Number Nine: Borrow money and not paying it back. This is the slightest problem that one may tend to avoid but it would eventually become a big problem as you are not being honest to your friend. There's no point of borrowing money from or to a friend when the money can't be returned as promised.

Number Ten: Embarrassing people in front of others. This is the MOST EFFECTIVE AND MOST DESTRUCTIVE WAY TO END A RELATIONSHIP. When you demean others in front of people you are actually asking for the relationship to end. Not by your own request but by your irresponsible action being mentioned.(again I've experienced it and really I've resolve that it would be the end of the friendship between me and that certain person.) If you do that, then it's goodbye to your relationship with your buddy or pal.

Well that's all you have for now, the ten ways to destroy a relationship. Just hope that none of us forget about the importance of maintaining a relationship and how one should avoid doing something like the above mentioned. In the next blog I'll share about the 8 keys of successsful relationship.